Yes, I was 16 when we got together and he was 24. We never married or had kids but lived together for 18 years happily - I thought. A few months before dropping the bomb he said that we were happier than most married people he knew.
I did suggest MC - he refused. He said there was nothing I did wrong, so nothing to work on or that could be changed.
I don't know when the OW came into the picture - except I have to trust that it was as he said...someone he met on the internet after he told me he didn't love me anymore.
Our discussions about the break up have been minimal - he says that he must of lost feelings for me a long time ago (though it never seemed it to me and he said he never reflected on it or noticed it). He says it is 'better' for me to be with someone who truly loves me. He can't give any specifics and if I push for any, he totally shuts down.
Me: 35 Him: 43 Together: 19 1/2 years 1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011 2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011 He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011 He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011
