Am I on the right track?

[NEmoose43]

Well, things seem to have gotten worse again. Why is it that every positive that we seem to have comes back with another negative? I know the whole thing about a WAW is that they're conflicted and unsure of what they really want. I think the way I'm responding is making it worse though.

W ended up coming to stay at the house this past Thursday and it was actually a very good night. I made dinner, and W had a difficult night at night at work, so I let her vent for a while. Watched a little TV together and went to bed. Very peaceful and calm evening over all.

Friday, things went downhill fast, and it was my fault. W had to work at the gym early, and I met her when she was done with clients to work out. Ended up going to lunch and W was in a bad mood. I asked if there was anything that she needed to talk about and she said that she wasn't feeling comfortable at the house. I validated as much as possible, told her I understood where that came from and I wanted her to be happy to come home so I asked her if there was anything I could do. She didn't say anything. We went home after lunch, and W got a little upset because she wouldn't have time to go visit her sister and her nieces since they had decided to go away for the weekend. I tried to empathize with her, and then all he!! broke loose.

W started to talk about the relationship again and said that she thought she was happier when she was away from me. Again, I bit my tongue and tried to do nothing but validate. Said that I understood that her coming home was awkward for her, and I apologized for my part in that. As she pressed on about things that were upsetting her about what I had done in the past, it led to another circular discussion about what we had talked about before. I know now that I should have ended the conversation and just walked away, but part of me saw an opening to try and make a difference. BIG MISTAKE Moose.

Found myself asking for another chance again, promising that I would never need another one, etc etc. I realize now (after a DB coaching session this morning) that this is where I need to back way off. I need to go dark about everything about the relationship talk. While it's good that we've been able to clear out all the things that we've been holding inside, now that they're in the open, I need to shut up and allow my 180s and GAL to do what they're designed to do. I need to just be myself and if she comes around, then awesome, but if not then I'll still be a better person for the changes I have made. My need to talk and articulate everything that's going on in my head is just pushing her away when she does want to be home with me. The more I do it, the less she's going to want to come back.

So now I feel like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. Guys I could really use some reassurance, and I know I can't get that from W as much as I want it. An inspiration you guys can give me would be so much appreciated.