Just wanted to jump in with the 'going on with the divorce' thing: lawyers can be very intimidating to lay people. When I filed for divorce I felt somehow pressure to go ahead with it regardless. After the initial shock I did not really want it, but I felt I was impotent to stop it. It was going to happen...
I got lucky and my lawyer read between the lines in an e-mail and did not actually file the TRO. I'd be divorced if she had not held back. But that weekend I really felt pressured to go through...
And I am not exactly a shrinking violet...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
