I am sure that is true, but it is how SHE interprets it.
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You think that you keep saying the same thing and some how I am going to change my mind.
Go back through your convos and see how often she says this, or something similar.
The fact is, regardless of your intent, she has felt that you continued to try to change her mind.
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Remember I am still trying to decide if I want to continue the constant contact or not and I am trying to determine if I can be her friend. This is where I am at the moment.
I totally understand this.
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If I know that friendship would lead to more I think I could do it. If I think friendship will lead to nothing but friendship I don't know if I can. Does that make sense?
Look, I understand. I really do. BUT. You are talking about making a decision based on HER reaction. Based on something you do not control.
The decision should not be made based on this expectation.
The truth is, you need to make the decision without having any idea how the future will unfold.
You can be friends and maybe it will lead to R or maybe it will not.
You cannot be friends, move on without her, and still not know what the future holds.
You need to make the decision for YOU. What she ends up deciding is outside of your control.
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I got it though fun/light................
How about this for a goal?
One conversation. Nothing even close to R talk. Not a hint at all. Keep it under 10 minutes, maybe closer to 5. That's it.
Of course, it all depends on what you want.
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