I do not have much time to post as I have an appointment at the gym w/ my trainer and If I miss the appt I have to pay anyway but here goes
I don’t know much about AD’s but from what I gather from C she was put on them solely for her situation an not because of a long term thing. Her Dr. told her it was a temporary thing. She feels that the AD’s give her an “I don’ t care” attitude and that in itself makes her depressed. Something like – well, I know some one is cutting off my leg, but it really does not hurt that much. — she knows that she should care about things but she just does not and she says that she just can not comment to any thing or any one (me)
I firmly believe that since she was put on the AD’s about 1 month before the Bomb that the “I don’t care attitude” and the advice of her Dr. (who she said she was consulting with) pushed her through the D. (I have even thought about looking into the idea of a civil suit against the Dr. for that although I have not done any research though. I do know there are attorneys that would represent me though)
And yes, she is taking fish oils and B vitamins. And she asked me the other day, “I’m not as depressed now as I use to be, am I?” I have read the 5 love languages and shared the concept of the book with her and she agrees with me that she likely is a quality time person. She does like gifts and touch too though. But when it comes to reading anything in that area, going to couple counseling or marriage counseling or any thing remotely connecting with her re-connecting with me, she backs off. However, she seems more than willing to let me do the effort to re-connect.
Zoo - consider this an invitation to jump in any time.
I believe you are right on the withdrawal from the AD’s and that is why I believe it has to be done gradually and under supervision. I believe her Dr. wants her on them so that she will continue to keep coming back for office visits and of course paying of the visits. And I believe that when C went to the Dr. and said - I am so depressed about my marriage, the Dr. simply said - I have something for that.
Well, I really need to go for now - will check back later tonight.
