Unwavering hostility

[Sanderika]

Hi Ladies,

I know they still love us. Their actual reality is they always will. They will never be free of those feelings.

My H has actually told me he loves me (many times) he has even said he is still "in" love with me.

Our stands are really very sad for this fact. because.....

Unfortunately this awareness will take them years to realize and it's eventually too late when they finally have this epiphany.

I believe some portray/spew hatred towards/for us instead to mask their reality which is guilt and shame over the devastation they have caused to their families.

Given all the hurt they have inflicted they cannot reclaim their
position as our husband and rejoin our families due to prideful ways and saving of face. That would be turning away from themselves and admitting to being wrong and selfish.

I have learned that they don't want us to turn our backs to them. I believe that while they can spew venom they want us to be the opposite towards them ALWAYS. This is a big part of the MLC being.

This old adage comes to mind:
"They can't live with us, can't live without us."

I have an H that is the opposite of this. Mine is very nice and friendly towards me. In my reality this is confusing. I am learning that he wants to be friends with me and I am currently
discovering that I don't want to be his. My friends would not forsake me. My H has betrayed me many times over and in ways that have been very hard to forgive although I have managed or at least I think I have. I am currently having more and more feelings of disgust and dislike for him. I see him right now and I can't believe who he is!

Ladies, if you think about this.....We will never be free of our feelings for them either no matter where the road of life takes us from here.....

I wish you all the very best with warm hugs,

Sanderika

PS: Beatrice, I have created a facebook in the alt for you all. How are you doing with this?