Hi- I got behind on your posts and have been letting them sort of simmer. I think you're right about a lot of things, doing a lot of good things, and I have been right there with you on that flip between was/lbs. It means your stuff is working, she's questioning her choices, pursuing you a little, and starting to be a better wife/mother! When H started doing this, I felt extremely proud and you should too.
OMW - I had to catch back up on your posts tonight. I don't know how I missed the point that AJ picked up on. A good DB often causes a flip between WAS and LBS. I think it is good to get to a point where you realize that your life will be positive with or without your WAS. It is true that a good DBing LBS often gets to the point that he makes the decision to leave the WAS, because they feel it is the best thing for themselves. In the end, it is your decision. Is it best for you?
I will journal shortly about our last couples therapy session that I feel was a small breakthrough. In short, my W asked me what a relationship would look like for us in the future. It is the first time in months that she has brought up anything that relates to a future with us intact. During this discussion, my W asked a number of questions to me that I will have a hard time answering. They range from her concerns over family issues to sex. In the end, I too had questions on whether or not this was going to be an acceptable relationship for me. Whether or not my W was willing to put the work into building a healthy M. I think we are going to start making some definite lead way in our upcoming sessions, as we begin to discuss these concerns. In the end, will I be willing to commit to a M with these considerations? We will see.
You are making awesome strides here. Looking forward to keeping up with your progress.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
