Through many of your posts, I've just read about how all your W does is complain. She continues to blame you for her unhappiness and you are always giving in.
What boundaries have you made? I think it's time for you to start sticking up for yourself and your kids. Not in a confrontational way, but to show that you won't be bullied. If you're worried about her accusing you of something, document everything. Get legal representation. Something.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.