The Lies and Deception Killing Me

[abbey1989]

Hi,

Had a good talk with DB coach yesterday a.m. I always feel better after speaking with her.

Key Points:

1) She advised ME to be more OWish. Obviously not by retaliating with a revenge A, but to act more flirty (not in a sexual way).

2) Be happy when H walks through the door. Stop doing dishes, working in office, etc....and look him in the eyes and have a conversation. Smile.

3) Make him think he's hot. Little comments here and there. She explained that arousal can be stimulating while not being satiated.

4) When kids are away for awhile, make a move and say things like "I feel like we're getting away with something". Be more playful.

5) She advised me to act the way OW is probably acting. Obviously she doesn't have the kids or business or family finance pressures so she can devote all of her energy to him. Coach advised me to act more like her.

6) She told me that she can tell that I am a very nice person, and that my H knows that I am, and he counts on me for stability. He sees me as responsible, not necessarily attractive. She thinks I need to mix it up and dress a little sexier (while still age appropriate), heels and whatnot. She said if I "act" demoralized it will be over.

7) Most important: she said....that in no way does she condone me sticking my head in the sand, but in this stage of our relationship as it stands now, she would not recommend confrontation. There will be a time to bring up the topic, but now now.

So....she thinks I should ask to go on a ride with him on his motorcycle this weekend. Be more adventurous. Make it less easy for him to go off on his own. In a way this seems opposite of DB rules, but in our case, I think I have made it too easy for H to come and go just so I can avoid the conflict.

Did anyone watch the royal wedding? Went to a friend's house to watch it live with all of my best girlfriends. Kate looked amazing! I'm a sucker for a happy ending!

Have a nice Friday everyone!