Where do I go from here?

[StaciG]

I am new to all this too, but I think it is best that you both continue to see the Counselor. Sounds like you both need that. Really you cant be upset with your W because look at the things that you were doing match.com??? That seems worse to me than her talking to a friend. Dont jump into anything to quickly, like with divorce and go to the counseling sessions both of you seperatly.