I might be wrong, but I don't think your h was going to return home. If he were going to do it, the conversation that he had with his daughter would not have stopped him. The conversation was an excuse to stay out there and not have contact w/you or his family.
It's the MLC, they talk about returning and many of them find an excuse not to. I'm sorry. Please do not put your plans on hold. He knows that it's her confirmation date and he's acting out just as she's been doing. Shame on him...he's the adult in this situation.
Take plenty of photos and if he should miss the confirmation, you will have photos to share w/him if he should inquire.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
