CTH, I think dealing with STBX will be easier for you once the D is final and the smoke has cleared. I hope so, anyway. It's so much better for the kids if their parents can somehow communicate and enjoy times like talent shows together. I just came from my D13's last gymnastics meet of the year and sat with wife, who at the last minute decided to skip a morning of work and come along. Of course, we spent 3.5 hours sitting together and there was lots of dead time to talk if we chose to. We chatted, mostly about the Meet. Afterwards, she went to work and I went home. I'm glad we can do that because many can't. I didn't have all the crap that you've experienced but I pray that one day you'll be able to sit at your child's talent show with your ex and not feel what you were feeling at this one. Anyway, kudos for going and having the courage to sit together as a family. I know that was tough for you to do right now
