JS: Thanks for your support. Yeah, this weekend i'll take time and burn the CD copies and send them away. I was being too lazy i guess. If even after sending the CD's if she does not send me any pic's i just have to wait until i see daughter next month.
CS: Last time i saw daughter was on March-12th. I know it has been about a month. But during this month daughter also had bad allergies attack and wife told me that daughter lost some weight.
So my plan is to buy the new ipod touch and give it to wife. That way we can use facetime when we talk.
I am avoiding going to see them now because (1): Work is getting too darn busy even during weekends. (2): We are almost finalized with the D and it just feels weird doing there now.
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[quote]We are almost finalized with the D and it just feels weird doing there now.
Go back and read the posts about being fear driven.
Do NOT let any of this keep you from seeing your D.
[b]What CS said. Seriously, I feel like my LONG post to you made no difference in your behavior. Wringing your hands helplessly and complaining bout what you can't do b/c it would "feel weird..." does forgetting how your only child looks, feel better?[/b[/b]
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
We are almost finalized with the D and it just feels weird doing there now.
Go back and read the posts about being fear driven.
Do NOT let any of this keep you from seeing your D.
[b]What CS said. Seriously, I feel like my LONG post to you made no difference in your behavior. Wringing your hands helplessly and complaining bout what you can't do b/c it would "feel weird..." does forgetting how your only child looks, feel better?[/b[/b]
Yea i deserved that. Yup, thats why i am here on these forums so i learn to overcome my issues. Thanks.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
So, what are you doing to work on your issues? What are your 180s? What are your GAL activities?
Why would your w think marriage to you [u]today[/u], would be better than it was before? If nothing, then expect nothing to change.
Boils down to this. You have to be LESS AFRAID of changing, than you are of losing everything. So far, your fear of change has led you to lose so much. Start your work on change, now. No matter what, your life will improve.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
25: Yup, adjusting to change has always been my weak point. As i said, this situation has exposed one big issue "fear". Sometimes i wonder if i get down because i love my family or because i am scared of change. Maybe it is the latter. I am working on overcoming. One way is to attack my issues head on. As i said, last week tested my strength. I was dealing with my divorce and then i hear from back home that my dad was admitted to the hospital with chest pains. News just seemed to get worse each day because they then found that he had some internal bleeding. Normally i'd be a mess. Not this time. I made sure i was in constant contact with my mom and dad. I kept re-assuring my mom and also made sure i conveyed my gratitude to all those who were helping out my parents. Now my dad is out of the woods. I feel glad that i actually for once was able to manage these issues without freaking out.
Journalling...
So finally they found that the blood thinners my dad was taking was causing all the issues of him having internal bleeding, shortness of breath, loosing weight and iron in his blood. Finally relieved when they sent him home yesterday. He too was surprised that i did not freak out. I told him that yup, inside i was scared, but i could not show it out. I felt good. Now i guess onto the pending issue at hand...
This weekend was moving watching marathon. So glad for netflix, I ended up watching about 12 foreign movies this weekend. Brain overload
Weather was divine. So i went out on a 2 hour cycle ride on saturday and spent sunday in my garage workshop.
From last week, i have been talking to my daughter everyday in the evening. I think it is much better is she hears me everyday. Wife did not sound too happy about it. But hey that's not something i can control. I am just so happy i can talk to my angel everyday.
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I feel glad that i actually for once was able to manage these issues without freaking out.
Outstanding, now build on this.
Originally Posted By: mykarma
From last week, i have been talking to my daughter everyday in the evening. I think it is much better is she hears me everyday. Wife did not sound too happy about it. But hey that's not something i can control. I am just so happy i can talk to my angel everyday.
Again, build on it. Baby steps, small successes, giant leaps, the name does not matter. when you can file it away in the positive column use it to build change on. If you cannot if it is a negative, then use it to learn from.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I think 25 has provided really good 2x4's. Right now i am doing my stuff, but still complain (in these forums) or get depressed (at home by myself). But if i understood her correctly, the key is 'fake it till you make it'. Means that i need to fake it, being strong, even when i am by myself. I guess only then being strong may become second nature to me. Thats what i did with my dad. 'Faked it'....
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
