Cat Thanks for the recommendation. As for the hair I honestly used to not care about it. Short long it didn't matter. My W started stating she liked it longer and I agree. Not making an excuses but I do. Now I have to cut it every once in a while to make standard. Personally I don't like it either I am of mix decent and I think too short hair makes me look too hoodlum-ish. Never liked that at all even before I met my W. She met me with long hair and I was already in the military. I am also lucky that in my particular field hair slightly longer than usual is accepted, and it's what the cool guys do lol. You'd be surprise how long the regulation let's you have hair. Buzz cuts are merely a product of group think, and while it looks nice to have a group of guys with buzz cuts I prefer my hair long. This is just one of those rare instances where we both agree. Ultimately I don't think that it was about the hair. I think she wanted to feel welcome back, and that she missed me, but had a hard time expressing it. She wanted me to make the first move and after I didn't she zeroed on the hair to have something to say. She herself told me she was expecting a warmer welcome. I was trying to detach.
Yeah you're right I am all over the place. According to the book I am reading I have some heavy nice guy tendencies. I am working on DB, and working on not being mr nice guy. All three modes of behavior are popping out at once it seems and I myself am super confused. I think for now I want to be 0 percent mr nice guy, 50 percent DB and 50 percent no more mr nice guy. It's weird NMMNG wants me to take care of myself first but DB wants me to listen, validate and change where appropriate. I am trying to find that happy medium.
