Everything came to a head when a good friend of mine confronted W about this affair she was having with this guy who is married with wife and family in another state. Apparently he was traveling into town every two weeks. W said that the A was coming to an end because OM company was closing the office here.
I am thinking even though the office closed, OM still travels to here once a month. I think that he and W still see each other when he comes to town. I am also afraid that he is giving her the line that he will never lie to her. Why would he? W could never validate whether it’s true or not.
Just late last week, she was in a very good mood. What her psychiatrist termed a hypo manic state. So I think he was in town. She also took work off Thursday afternoon. I think she saw him Thursday and Friday morning.
I am trying very hard to work on myself and not have this affair affect me. I am trying to be upbeat and positive with W. W seems to like that as well as the attentiveness.
This is very hard.
W has shut me out almost totally with any affection. I am very frustrated with that.
I have told W that I totally trust her. But having a difficult time with that as well.
W now wants us to help the daughters financially over the summer with new partment as well as use the paycheck I get get from a second job to pay back the oldest daughter that W used with sending youngest one a school trip when we didn't have the money in the first place. I feel like all I am good for is a paycheck.
Fearful that if I go dark, that W will go back to surfing the online dating sites and looking for that attention.
What do I do if my suspicsions about OM is true? Do I confront W? I feel divorce is not the answer. I can attest to that from experience. Don’t want to go through another divorce.
I am desperately looking for direction, support, advice and help...
