First, I have to say I've read all of 25yearsmlc's responses to the other posts and I want to nominate her for a Pulitzer
Just a little pleasant journaling, gotta put the good out there too...
Didn't feel like going to the bar with friends last night, as it was across town and there's tons of construction. Got text from W that a package I was waiting for came in (Lost complete 38 disc collection, so excited!).
me: Yay, happy me I'm not going to bar night so I'll have to figure out a time to get it
W: I'm not going either
me: Would it be ok for me to pick it up tonight? 7-7:30 or so?
W: Yes, I am exhausted from long days but should still be awake. U can grab the mail from the mailbox too if u wish in case it's yours. I just got home at 6 and crashed but after my haircut at least I don't look awful. Mostly
me: I'm sure you look great as usual I'll try not to wake you up. Thanks!
W: The door is unlocked and the package by it. Mail in kitchen..come say hi I'll be in my room but most likely not sleeping.
So, W was awake reading and having a glass of wine. I figured I'd spend 5 minutes there tops. Ended up staying 45 minutes as W kept talking and I kept listening and validating. Really long workdays for her with lots of stress. I used to work with her, so I could relate and knew most of the people she was talking about.
After she recounted her last several days I went to leave and she followed me around the house still talking with me. Made it a point to show me her lengthening to-do list, which was things I normally took care of. I knew better not to offer to do any of these.
Finally got outside with my package and W follows there too. Said goodbye and W reaches out for a hug. Hugged back with one arm as I had the huge package in the other. In hindsight I guess I could have put the box down for a bigger hug, oh well.
Had planned on running as it was a nice evening, but the lure of the box got the better of me and I spent two hours watching Lost extras and drinking wine of my own. Pretty good night all in all.
Right now, I'm happy with the dim approach. Gives me time to GAL and W time to figure out what she really wants. She really does seem to light up when she sees me these days. I guess we both do.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
