I can't and won't try and convince you to stay married. That's some heavy lifting I don't have the energy for. There has to be something on your end to support or help with your decision or even desire to be married.
I have 2 things that stood out from your last post:
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Then I got that "people must bow down and kiss your feet". Lets just say there were lot's of FU's from me after that.
Seems like she hit a nerve. Said something that stung.
You know MLC is really where I came into my own. Not sure if you followed me over there, one of the bigger things I believe in:
If something "Stings"?
You need to look at it, and figure out why.
The basic example is: If you're fat and NOT ok with being fat, and I call you fat. One I'm an asshat and brutally honest. Two it is going to 'sting' /hurt you.
If you're fat and ok with your body image, and I call you fat. It won't sting and I'm still an asshat, but brutally honest.
If you're skinny or in shape, and I call you fat, I am not only talking aout of my butt, but it is isn't going to sting; more than likely you're going to laugh in my face.
If something 'stings' we owe it to ourselves to figure out why something can hurt us, usually its because someone forced us to look at ourselves in light we don't like being seen in.
"I am just trying to "find" something to hold onto. I suspect that if she walked up tomorrow and told me she would fulfill all my "needs".. I would pass. How is that for honesty?"
Pretty honest.
How hard are you looking Forrest? Because I'm wondering if you aren't going through the motions of the "right thing to do".
So...ignoring the fact that, if she 'magically' came up to you and said, I'll fulfill all your wishes and you'd turn her down.
What are you trying to 'find'?
If you don't know the thing you're looking for if you don't know your goal. It wouldn't matter if she turned into a 25 year old, yoga instructor with a libedo from an X-rated movie. If that's not what you want...
If you cannot figure out what you are wanting to find, what you need;
How can you hold that against her?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
