Well I was thinking I would not have time to post this morning - I am suppose to meet C to work out at 6 and have to leave here by 5:30 but my internal clock must have said it is time to get up so I am awake by 4:45. so I do have a little time to post positives.
1. I have time to get me some coffee this morning. 2. C was having some emotional problems with other things in her life and just needed someone to talk to - so she calle me last night and we talked for over an hour - chit chat, fun things, flirting some. Got the idea she did not want to talk about the problem - just to get her mind off it and onto something nice. 3. She did say she was feeling so down that she might not be at the gym this am but did want me to call her this morning to make sure she got up and she knows that if she goes she will feel better. She said "I am paying for it, I really need to use it." so I thing she will show.
Speaking of which - it is time to call her and get ready to go. Catch yall later
I am at work and between clients so a update on this morning.
She had me worried for a few - she was 15 minutes late but we had a good workout and she thanked me for making her start doing it. after the workout we stopped by a Waffle House (Link for those of you who have never heard of WH) for breakfast. Talked about the counselor - she said she was not ready for "together" counseling but did not have a problem with us seeing the same one. but that for now she wants to work on Her. (taking a clue from my DB talk that I am working on me) and she is open to me finding one so I will find one that has a goal of saving Marriages.
wish me luck in finding one.
Deb and Pam - thanks for the chat last night. Keep on Swiming.
Over this last weekend I ordered a potted gardenia plant from 800Flowers.com and had arranged for it to be delivered today with a simple card that said hope you have a very happy new years (no ILY either) - at the time I did not know she was having as much problems going through her head as she was, (employee, sister, her business, etc.) I just figured that most women like to get flowers so I sent them.
Well she got them just a few minutes ago and it had a great effect. I could see in her IMs that it kinda made her day.
I will keep on trying to make her feel good when she thinks of me or is with me.
good morning all and I hope every one will be safe tonight while celebrating the new year.
Drinking my morning coffee and thinking about my positives from yesterday.
1. had a good workout with her at the gym yesterday morning followed by a nice breakfast before we had to go to work. She thanked me for making her start working out.
2. had a short but nice IM from her yesterday mornin after we each got to work but I had clients all day and she was working with a bookkeeper to work on her accounting so we did not have much time to IM.
3. my 800flowers.com order was delivered to her around 1pm and she sent a great IM thanking me. She seemed to be really happy about it and as she was really down about alot of other problems in her life now it boosted her PMA.
4. got a phone call from her last night (she is calling alot lately) and we talked for almost an hour. Again thanked me for the flowers and for working out. Said she was going to have an appointment with a personal trainer today (Sales pitch - she said she would not bite) and since I was already going to work out this afternoon she suggested that I meet her at her home and we could go together, suggested that since I was taking off at noon that I could come over when ever I wanted even I she had to work some more I was welcome. She also agreed with my suggestion that we could do dinner after. (Last week I had asked her to do something with me for new years but she said she could not plan anything that far ahead so I planned to let her come up with new years plans.) After Dinner I guess we will play it my ear as to what we do.
5. Also in the call she stated that she got caught in traffic comming home last night so she stopped at a mall and just walked and got dinner and enjoyed herself - I told her I thought that was great. she followed with the fact that she really did not have walking shoes on and her feet hurt and could use a foot massage. (she also said in her call night before that she could use a back rub and I remember that she has been saying things like that a lot lately) All I could say was that I wish I was there to give her a good foot massage. She also mentioned the night before last that with all the problems with her employee and her generally down feeling that she was feeling the worst when she was alone. I told her that she could call me any time and we could just talk about fun things or if she wanted I would come over and we could do a movie or just do any fun thing to get her mind on other things. (seems that with other things bothering her she is comming to me for support - I can live with that)
Well time to get ready for work - looking forward to a good afternoon and evening.
Sorry for no morning coffee and positives this morning but I had to get up and go to the gym. When I got back I just took it easy and rested some. There were plenty of positives though on my date w/ C which started New Years Eve around 4pm. When I got there she was asleep on the couch. We just sat and talked for a few minutes. She stated that her feet were rough again so I got the foot cream and gave her a foot massage as I listened to her talk about a problem she was having that was getting her really down. Still discouraged and down about employee and since no shower today and said she wanted to shower before going to work out so I tell her to just wait a few then go and draw a bubble bath for her light some candles and put on some soft music I leave her alone while I give puppy a bath in Kitchen sink.
After her bath she gets dressed and we start to go to work out but get side tracked and go to eat with sis and family at Zaxby’s instead. After dinner we go to see her Aunt who is elderly and is not doing too well. On the way we talked like two young people who were just starting dating. Laughed, kidded, talked about things from our past before we met and just had a good time. Her aunt was feeling much better than a few days ago and C had a great visit with her aunt and uncle. On the way home we again talked and just enjoyed each other’s company.
When we got home we built a fire in the fireplace and cuddle while watch TV and settle in on an old Frank Sinatra special on public tv. One of the songs he sings was “Can I try again” It had great lyrics and while he was singing she just looked at me and smiled. We flipped back to one of the main channels to watch the ball drop and we each hugged and kissed as the new year came in. We were so tired though that we then went right to bed, spooned and cuddled and went to sleep.
She got up first and started the coffee brewing then came back to snuggle some. We both got up a little later and I poured and doctored us a cup each, (no neither one of us is a “pure” coffee drinker - both do cream and lately honey) and we then sat and watch the morning news for a few but soon turned off the TV and just talked some more. After a few minutes we fixed some toast and pepper jelly for a quick “hold-us-over” breakfast. We decided that we would go out for breakfast later but C needs to get some food in her early in the morning or she gets kinda sick. After our hold over toast, we took a nice long shower together - it is really nice to get someone to wash your back and to wash someone else’s back in return. After our shower we ended up in the bedroom and were hugging and kissing and she suggested some soft music. When she started the cd and came back to the bed where I was sitting, I stood up and gave her a big hug which ended up in a nice slow dance around the bedroom with more hugging and kissing. Halfway through dance she lost her robe and by the end of the song we were on the bed and stayed there for almost an hour.
When we got up we dressed and went to breakfast at Cracker Barrel. When the breakfast came she requested that we start off the meal with a blessing which I was happy to do. On the way home from breakfast we stopped by her sisters and I gave my gifts to niece and nephew and we visited again for a few minutes. sisters kids.
We then went home and I helped her take down her Christmas tree and decorations and put all the stuff in the attic. She later thanked me saying that without me to help she would not have been able to do it. We then sat down in the living room and ate some chips and salsa and talked for awhile. We were both tired and we then settled down and slept for about an hour on the couch.
Since she had made plans for a girls night out later I went ahead and left but before I went home she said that she had volunteered to baby sit sisters two kids on Friday all night and that I was welcome to come over and help her. And she said she had a great time and really thanked me for coming over. A really nice 27 hour date and she asked me to come over again. Things are looking up for 04
Morning Coffee and time for more positives from yesterday
1. I could not post positives on Saturday morning because I was on another 27 hour date with C. 2. lots of positives from the date - to many to post now - I will post more details later. 3. Things are looking up.
