Punkin, yes, I have every intention of answering - for several reasons - firstly I am usually a very polite person, and would reply anyway, secondly, it would be a gracious thing to do, and thirdly, I have no expectations, and therefore have no reason NOT to reply. Since I am in control of my life as much as any of us are!], ss you say, I will not getting sucked back into anything.

My life is not complete without the person my h was, and I miss that man, as we all do here - I am like a widow in that respect, in that I have learned to accept my loss, but that is another matter.

I am not dbing. I made the changes that I think I needed to make, or am making them, as an ongoing process, but that is for me.