Thanks for all the responses and support, ladies. I'd be a wreck without all of you.
Happy no one saw any harm in the little note. Think I'll send it abut 1 hour before court. That's even better.
I'm trying to stay as upbeat as I can about the whole thing. It's not as if I haven't lived alone most of the last 9 years. My brain tells me that logically, I can only come out better than I have had it the last 12 months. I just have to approach this without the sentimentality that I feel for our marriage, which he denies ever having.
