SA, thanks for this. I am still a bit surprised by my feelings. Or lack of them. My marriage was good until about 3 months before BD. Very happy, although signs of MLC were there if you knew how to look. Even H sometimes admits we were happy, but it depends very much on which way the wind is blowing that day! It is nearly 6 years since his behaviour towards me changed radically, and although I see people reconciling after that sort of time, in my case my feelings have not so much changed as disappeared. Maybe I am due my own MLC!! Rewriting history, and all that stuff.
