Thanks for all your input, and I agree about the simplicity. I slept well, without thinking much about the email, and then this morning I realised that I don't think I want my h in my life any more. Yes, I cut him out because of his hostility, but now? I was considering the possibility of a friendship [not a reconciliation!!] and it gave me no pleasurable thoughts at all.
Even a year ago I would have been very interested, but the length of time and the pain of the divorce. . . . . this isn't anger or hostility from me, but something else. I may have moved on while I wasn't looking! LOL
From the limited contact that two of my sons have I think he is turning from alien/pod person into hollow man. And I have plenty of friends. Always room for new ones, but of my choosing. I find my emotional state rather sobering if that doesn't sound odd. I so desperately wanted my xh to wake up and return, for such a long period, and now I don't even think I want him as a 'friend'.
