Irma, I knew you would feel this at some point. Problem with standing for as long as you did is the feelings of wasted time, feeling used, abused, lied to, and low feelings about one's self. I'm not against standing, but it can become unhealthy, in your case, it became unhealthy. You must not spend too much time dwelling on him or what was, you need to focus on yourself and move forward. Don't sit and think " he will get his" its been my experience that most people don't get what they deserve, good or bad. Only thing you can do in this life is to make it as good for you and your family as you can.