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Re: M exit strategy ~ kd ~ #2149933 04/27/11 10:13 PM
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25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	Originally Posted By: Kaffe Diem Starsky, you had mentioned in my other thread about the safety of the kids. While it concerns me greatly about the amount of time she leaves the kids alone on weekends, even over nights 'til... ? I don't know. Until she gets home the next morning...? I do trust that they will be physically OK. I am right here and always available if something were to go wrong. Both know how to get in touch with me if there was a real, safety problem. I want to make sure I am clear here. Are you saying you leave your d's alone overnight? And they are 13 and 8? Are they both your d's? I ask b/c the timeline of the R and M seems short if they're your girls. I'm not sure it's legal to leave them alone that long, and as a parent I can't see it. Sorry. I'm not trying to judge but I find it alarming...seriously. If I were you I would volunteer to have the girls those nights. Period. Geez, if something were to happen one of those nights, how would you your soon to be ex, cope? But emotionally...??? They will both be scarred from this. How severely, I don't know at this time. I will simply have to be the best dad I can. I do find it interesting how there are certain questions that my W continues to not answer. Especially around the trust and honesty. As the alien shows up, she has trust issues, but she trusts me. She feels I've been dishonest, yet she believes my honesty. Obviously, W cannot answer questions that she remains confused on. As shows in the interesting outlook on love and our future. Stop those questions. They are designed to get a specific reaction from her, not merely seeking information. That is manipulative and controlling and she knows it and you know it. You really have to Back off for real. My DB coach said once that "questions starting with the words 'Why do you' or 'How can you' are going to trigger defensiveness in the person hearing them." Keep that in mind. Be honest with yourself. Stop worrying about what she is doing in her life to work on herself. You have no control over that and it isn't your job to fix her. No offense but don't you have enough work to do on you? good luck. M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

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M exit strategy	~ kd ~	04/16/11 07:06 PM
Re: M exit strategy	sgctxok	04/16/11 08:33 PM
Re: M exit strategy	islander	04/16/11 11:08 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/17/11 12:54 PM
Re: M exit strategy	~ kd ~	04/18/11 02:06 AM
Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/18/11 02:28 AM
Re: M exit strategy	Forrest Gump	04/18/11 04:21 AM
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Re: M exit strategy	Mach1	04/18/11 01:51 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	~ kd ~	04/18/11 04:13 PM
Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/18/11 04:18 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	Mach1	04/18/11 05:46 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	~ kd ~	04/18/11 06:32 PM
Re: M exit strategy	Mach1	04/18/11 06:53 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	ninelives	04/25/11 06:20 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/27/11 02:08 PM
Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/25/11 06:24 PM
Re: M exit strategy	~ kd ~	04/21/11 02:45 AM
Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	04/18/11 03:38 PM
Re: M exit strategy	25yearsmlc	04/27/11 10:13 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	♪CS♪	05/12/11 05:46 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	25yearsmlc	05/19/11 11:07 PM
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Re: M exit strategy	25yearsmlc	05/20/11 08:33 AM
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Re: M exit strategy	Starsky309	05/09/11 02:48 PM

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