Exactly! You shouldn't be worried about what she is doing ... you cannot control her or her R with your kids. Now you know she is having a full on affair. What does this change? You still need to GAL, work on yourself and detach from her.
I wish you so much happiness, that it bursts from your home and extends to all who meet you.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim