Punkin, You were not rude, you asked a very simple question and one that I could answer for you. Happiness will come in very wee steps as you go through the divorce process. No one is "happy" all of the time, no matter if there is a crisis or not. However, am I happy w/my life as it is now, I can honestly say yes. Sure, we all had good marriages and they had good days and bad days, but life has a way of changing things for us and we have to learn to accept where we are right this minute.
I, as well as the others know, you do not wish your h ill will. Whether he's happy or not, time will tell. I honestly do think that if my xh where truly happy in his new life w/his now married to HO, I wouldn't get so many odd phone calls before holidays, new mail addressed to him at my residence and things moved around in my yard. People who are happy don't do things such as this. They are too busy living their lives and enjoying themselves. Your h will take some time to discover that life isn't what he thought it would be. The euphoria of the divorce will keep him on a high for about 6 months and then life will nicely smack him in the face w/reminders of how it's going to be day in and day out.
As for you, you have already had a lot of things "smack you in the face". You will go on w/your life and you will learn to carve out a new and exciting one...it just takes time. Give yourself a break and don't be too hard on yourself. You are going to have good and bad days...you are human. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
