Ah now you've fallen into the Catch-22 of DBing. You've done detachment so well that you've "outgrown" your H. In fact, your H sees that you no longer "need" him which is why he's trying to keep your attention. It's exactly what we said would happen when you pull away.
IMHO all M are worth it and both people can change for the better. Look at yourself. You've changed for the better and your H can too.
If you decide to work on the M, then I suggest this... Since he's over all the time, make yourself scarce whereby you really don't spend time with him. Do this for a week or two and you'll see that he'll increase his contact with you. When it gets to a certain point, tell him that if you two are to proceed, then he is to arrange for C for the two of you. If he doesn't follow through, then you know that you're at two different points and then you can decide if you want to stay or not.
If you don't want to work on the M, then cut him loose.
Put the responsibility of moving forward in the M on him. But don't put the responsibility of how YOUR life is run on him. You have the control now. You just have to use it wisely.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
