MLC Purgatory

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We have all been there. The anxiety diet, the insomnia, the pain, the fear. This site helps you get through it whether it works out or not.

Just make sure you are taking care of your self and making your self happy. Whether it be working out, therapy, having a good support group. Why? you need to be OK for your kids. Clearly, your H is figuring himself out as my W did. Whatever you do, don't blame or say bad things about him to the kids. It is easy to fall into that trap. I blamed my W for what she is doing to the kids. I am 16 months into a $40,000 divorce that I am paying for..Believe me, there are alot of things I could say.. I made some mistakes early on about talking about her affair to people in the community. Big Mistake...It can always get back to your kids maybe not today, but in years to come.

It will take a long time to get through everything. I too had the feeling of did I ever really love this person. I did learn along the way through the divorce process, that because of the way I was treated in the marriage, I had changed too and wasn't the same person to her either...

Stay strong. Try not to have any arguments in front of the kids. If it helps, bringing the kids to therapy can't hurt either. I did that with mine and it has helped. Actually, my W and i did that together.

You will find someone new someday. I caution you to wait at all costs. You will think you are ready. Trust me your not. As soon as my W moved out(we were separated for almost a year under same roof)I started dating. Thought I met the one. Turns out she may be the one, but I am no where ready for a marriage, moving in, etc...I wouldn't be surprised if your H figures that out soon enough..

I do hope it works out and you two can find each other again, however, if you don't this place helps you get ready..