Where to begin? This was the worst/best day in my years of working to save my family.
Last night, my S17 and I got into an argument for the first time in years. That led to him spending the night with STBX. It also resulted in D19 making some comments about both kids being angry.
So...I saw my counselor this morning and when I came home spoke to D19. Short version: she confirmed what my gut has been telling me. STBX has been having a full relationship with her boss for some time (not sure how long). They went on vacation in March etc etc etc. This is the same man who years ago it was rumored that STBX was having an affair with. It was an EA at least.
I called STBX to say it's time to be honest and she claimed she had told me. REALLY?????? THAN WHY DID MY KIDS NEED TO KEEP IT FROM ME??? WHY WOULD SHE TELL HER KIDS "THE FIRST TIME WE SLEPT TOGETHER" AND NOT BE HONEST WITH ME? WHY WOULD ANY WOMAN DO SUCH A THING TO HER CHILDREN?
This is a tough day, but knowing the truth certainly explains a lot.
After all these years, I pray that this is the final straw for me - that I can finally move on to the life I deserve.
