Bolt, On paper my XW and I have shared custody of our children, I am very lucky in my situation as far as the financial and legal ramifications go. I don't pay any child support nor ailimony but I have my daughter 100% of the time and I have my son most of the time.
I could tell you about how whacked out my XW and how that set up the situation I have now but that really is not important.
What is important is your daughters.
My recomendation is try to keep them together, it will be better for them, I can tell you that their world is being rocked right now and everything is changing. If they are not together they will feel as though they have lost a sibling too.
My son feels this way about his sister when he goes to see his mother every other weekend. It is getting more difficult on him as time wears on.
Grace is spot on about your attitude......you need to show a strong, confident image to your oldest daughter. Not only does she dislike what your W is doing but she will further resent her mother if you allow the pain to show through.
The other thing you need to be prepared for is that your W will blame you for her daughter's feelings towards her. Eventually she may turn that anger towards your daughter.....that is what happened in my situation........it makes a bad situation worse.
I know you have a pile of SHAT on your plate to deal with and it does S U C K but you can get through it.
I did and so can you.
Hey, do me a favor and look up "Little Friday" here for me. It was one thing I did and still do that helped me get through.
hang in there.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
