good afternoon all - I was busy this morning - C called and wanted to talk about a problem she is having (not our sitch) and we talked for over an hour, so no posting of positives - a big positive though that she talked with me about it and wanted my advice.
another slight problem I have that any one on the Board can help me with - the other day C mentioned that she had always wanted "chestnuts roasted by an open fire" and had never had them. After kidding her about me being a "Chest"nut we kinda dropped it. Well, I now have about 2 lbs. of Chestnuts and have downloaded intructions on roasting them from several sites but if anyone on here has had experience with roasting chestnuts and can give any advice that might not be on the web, I would appreciate it.
good morning all - C called again last night and we talked more about her problem with an employee - First time she has had to let some one go and it is tearing her up.
also I roasted some Chestnuts on the stove - not too bad algho I could have done them a little longer.
I had a really good date Friday night - Since she had to let her employee go and that employee was the one that had prepared my office payroll checks, I was concerned about who would do my payroll checks. C said that she could do the checks and would have them for me when I came over on Friday night. It was my intention when I went over to not stay over Friday night even if I got back late. I went over right after work and instead of going out to eat on the way to the bus we just nuked a left over pizza she had. While fixing the pizza I asked her if she had done my checks and she said that she had not had time to get to them but that we could do them in the morning and said that since we would be getting in late from our date that I would be there in the morning. I just looked at her some and she repeated that since we would be getting in late that I WOULD be there in the morning. I said that that would be fine. and we just chatted and talked some as we ate the pizza.
We then drove to the pick up point for the bus trip (the Disco Party Bus) to check out the area Christmas lights. The sponsor of the event was a Singles club where we met on a club trip to Destin, Fla. Since we were married we did not go on many events and all our friends from the club did not know of the Big D. Well when we were talking to new club members on the bus C described how we met through the club and got married a year later but she did not say anything about the D. Later when we were talking with another couple from the club I was asked how long we were married, I responded with saying “well we were married on ______” and that kinda answered their question. We had a really good time on the trip and got back real late then drove back to her place.
At her place we went to bed and just cuddled some and went to sleep but no ML. In the morning I got up and fixed her some coffee and we just talked some. She was saying that we could just warm up more pizza for breakfast, but I really did not want more pizza and so I went into the kitchen and took stock of what was there then made some biscuits and cooked some eggs and link sausages. Was a big hit with her she was hungry and did not feel like cooking. We then went downstairs to the computer to run the checks for my office.
After the Checks, she wanted to take a shower and strongly hinted that I take one with her, which I did. Helped her wash her hair and did some hugging and kissing in the shower. Then helped her dry and brush her hair. She moved to the bed to brush her hair some and I joined her and in a few minutes ended up with a beautiful ML.
After that I helped her brush her hair again (it got a little messed up earlier) then we chatted some more before I left for home. She thanked me for a nice date Friday night and for a nicer morning Saturday and for ML.
The rest of Saturday I went to watch my grandson at his middle school wrestling match and then went shopping for more junk for Christmas. Sunday I just cleaned, washed clothes, and otherwise just goofed off. You have to do that (goofing off) some.
All in all a really nice weekend. Looking forward to Monday. I took off work to do the hair styling school thing - it should be intresting.
PS - just had a good positive - Other than calling C as I was on the way home Saturday around noon to tell her I joined a health club, I had not had any contact with her. Well C just called to say that she had not spoken with me since I left and was thinking of me and wanted to call and say Hi. I was very positive and upbeat, and thanked her for a really great time on our date and on Saturday morning. She also mentioned that I was going to do the hair styling school thing not going to be at work tomorrow and to wish me luck there and to have a good time. I told her I did not have to be there til around 10 and I would IM her from home before I left. We chit chatted for about 15 minutes.
It is very hard to hold back and not tell her that I despertally want to be back together but holding back does seem to give her the space she needs to work through her MLC and WAS thing and when I do not call it seems that she calls more and that really makes me feel good.
Quote: It is very hard to hold back and not tell her that I despertally want to be back together but holding back does seem to give her the space she needs to work through her MLC and WAS thing and when I do not call it seems that she calls more and that really makes me feel good.
So... keep doing what works!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Yesterday was great - sleep in - Had to be at the beauty school at 10 - the instructor was great and really liked the idea of what I was doing. I had several photos of C so he could tailor the instruction more toward what I might do for her, but mostly it was just basic stuff. I learned to do a straight part, cut bangs, de-tangle and brush longer hair, use of the flat iron, curling iron and different rollers. Lasted almost 4 hours.
After the session I stopped by my friends office (the one I lent my DR book to) on the way home and he reports that he has read most of the book and it has really helped him. I really hope it can as he has a 3 or 4 year old son.
Talked with C on the cell as I was driving home and she invited me over last night. Seems that she was having two of her sons (oldest 20something and youngest 21) over for dinner and then exchange gifts. So I took my gift to her and the kids and went over. Had a great time and got home around 10.
