Be careful not only with your words, but what you don't say to your D's. Attitude can be everything.
Kids are so much smarter than we geve them credit for and understand more of this than you may realize. It isn't the same as when I was your D's ages. They are exposed to so much more (even if they are relatively sheltered).
My D's are 18 and 16 now, but when they were younger and we would talk about complex situations in families, I was really blown away by what they understood and could articulate.
Watch for any need they may have for counseling. Sometimes, we (parents) think we can help our kids through all of this. Sometimes, we are wrong.
