My coaching session was positive. Fast moving, very solution oriented, and generally made me feel better about my plan and what I've been doing. Reminded me I cant control what I can't control, and to try to stop fretting over what she might be doing or thinking.
With regards to the anniversary, the coach asked me: "from you wife's perspective, is what you plan to do going to be neutral, negative, or positive?". This is the question to ask when deciding, and I liked the approach. Really I have to answer this since I know my wife better than the coach.
So based on this, it is clear that I will do nothing which would require her to decide anything. That would be neutral to negative.
I will do the card in the morning, and that is it. Anything after that for the day will be dependent on how she reacts, or what she brings up / wants to do. This way it is neutral / positive. Recognizing the date, very diff than I have done in the past, and she has only to receive.
