25yrs and Young at Heart I understand what you both are saying, but with a month and a half left here, It seems really pointless to start something too elaborate. That's why I started playing cards after almost ten years of not playing. I hate starting things (especially with all the investment costs) only to not be able to do them once we move. Now once I move!! Man that is going to be great! I already have a martial arts class lined up, I'm getting back into triathlon, keep playing cards (of course) and will get to do much sightseeing. Yeah I worked myself into a rut lately, but who cares I'm almost out of here. I'm way too excited about the new location. Now if I can find a good guitar teacher I will definitely do that too. (Sorry Young at Heart, I think that's as stereotypical Alpha Male as it gets for me) Not that I'm a wuss, or effeminate, a lot of that stuff just doesn't get my attention. Not to mention that it is a major turn off for my W.
Now I find your comment about finding physical activity slightly ironic. I have always been in shape. Never been a buff guy, just slim and slightly toned. Now that six pack sounds great, but I already have a 29 inch waist, yet no six pack. I tried trust me lol!! I can still outrun the 18 year olds at 27 So physical fitness is not an issue. Where I will agree with you is that I have stayed in great shape, but haven't done something AWESOME with it. I used to do triathlons, did the Bataan Death march three years in a row with full gear. (In fact just because you mentioned that I had to wear one of my shirts today :D) So I will admit that despite staying in shape, that competitive edge sure has been missing lately. One of the reason was that my W always complained about how I was never around because of all the train up for it. Go figure.... I used to run 15 to 20 miles a week bike about 50 and swim 5000 meters... With two workout sessions a day. Now I do about 30 mins a day and watch what I eat. My work schedule just changed so I think starting tomorrow I will devote 1.5 hours to working out. I had also planned to start using Rosetta stone now that my schedule has changed.
Now as for a social outlet, I understand that friendships are what you make of it, but because of my particular assignment about 80% of the people I know will be gone in about a week. I myself will not have much to do around work for about a month. (I already have lots of cool things planned) The guys I play cards with are a great bunch, and I make new friends everyday. It's nice to know that in only a month I'm already making a name for myself in the local circuit.
Oh I'm also an amateur photographer... Just kinda hate the scenery around here, but at my next duty station!!
Bottom line I'm pretty happy with my current situation, I guess it's only because I know I am going to my dream duty station. Then again I sacrificed ALOT to get there so I know I deserve it!
I know my W is not happy here, and I don't blame her. I offer lots of opportunities for her to do things with me, because it builds the relationship, and gets her distracted. Now she did mention that since I had gotten back I have been smothering her, so that's why I let her take the trip. I also play cards 2-3 times a week for about 3-6 hours. That has gotten us some pretty good space. Here's another thought about her "doing something" during the trip. She could just as easily, if not more, do it while I am at work, playing cards, or doing something else. No thanks I don't need that type of paranoia. I already have enough of a hard time with my own insecurities about the relationship. I don't need anymore.
I already went through a period where I tried to find everything, and suspected everything. In the end all it did was create more strife between us, because she could see right through me. She found my need to know everything seriously unattractive, no apalling. If there was an OM/ OW all it did was push her further. No more of that. It's one of my 180's. I guess this is my polite way of asking for people to please stop suggesting that. I am well aware that is a possibility. (It says so in the name of the thread!) As far as i know, and trust me I tried, a PA or EA has not happened. Freaking out about it will not prevent it if it is in the works. It will just make me look weak, and undesirable. The goal is confident and aloof. Not worrying about something that hasn't happened, or I can't prove has happened. Ok enough of that.
As for my W liking our next assignment, we went there twice on vacation and loved it so much I decided to make some sacrifices so we could go. It's looking good in that respect. She has work lined up, and a lot of GAL of her own. I know this will be good for the both of us.
So physical fitness is not an issue. Where I will agree with you is that I have stayed in great shape, but haven't done something AWESOME with it. I used to do triathlons, did the Bataan Death march three years in a row with full gear. (In fact just because you mentioned that I had to wear one of my shirts today :D) So I will admit that despite staying in shape, that competitive edge sure has been missing lately. One of the reason was that my W always complained about how I was never around because of all the train up for it. Go figure.... I used to run 15 to 20 miles a week bike about 50 and swim 5000 meters... With two workout sessions a day. Now I do about 30 mins a day and watch what I eat. My work schedule just changed so I think starting tomorrow I will devote 1.5 hours to working out. I had also planned to start using Rosetta stone now that my schedule has changed. 
