Thank you Snodderly. I was coming back on to apologize for being rude. I didn't mean it that way. You are always here for everyone on this board with excellent advice.
I believe the 'could have beens' are what is haunting me at present. All the dreams we had for retirement and spending time with each other, our grands, etc. It's just hard to let go of that dream and know it is dead for all time; or at least, has to evolve to a new dream.
I have to keep reminding myself of the things in our marriage that I didn't so much enjoy. Time and distance has a way of fading those 'not so great' memories, but I'm sure that is true of the MLC'rs, as well.
I really don't want my H unhappy, but then again, I am so sad, and I want him to be sad as well. Welcome to the Twilight Zone.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011