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[verysad2day]

So, as many know things were really bad for many months. OW was discovered 100% and that was the final straw. He left that night when confronted. I cried in private ect... Tomorrow will be 4 weeks since he moved out.

Over the last 4 weeks things have been great. We have "dated" ect. He always calls before coming over if he thinks I will be home. Sometimes he comes while I am at work to mow the lawn and clean/play with the dogs.

Yesterday I was sick, ok hungover from Easter (without him) Went to bed around 6pm. Woke around 11pm for some water. He was here. WTF ever, went back to bed. This morning he was still here.

Here is my issue: I have changed, he has not and I recognize that. I want my privacy. I would never show up at his house and sleep on the couch. He calls all the time. He won't leave me alone. I do enjoy our "dates" but that should not include NOT knowing when he will show up.

How do I say: Dude, lets get this marriage back on track but I need some privacy in the home YOU wanted to leave? And, while you are here, don't tell me that I should not have drank so much (I know that), don't tell me what I am doing wrong as far as anything. But, thanks for paying your share of the bills thus far.

I am starting to think that once I dropped the rope, he isn't the match for me. I would love for it to work out, but not the way it is working out.

He did find my book 5LL and took it, I think. Can't find it