All's well that ends . . . . . .?

[AntoniaB]

Punkin somewhere I saw the stat. that 85% of marriages that take place within 2 years of a divorce end.

I've thought the same--the even worse thought is "what if he has a child with the OW??" After all, my XH was a self-professed kid hater and never ever wanted kids, but he had the nerve to tell me back when I still let him talk to me that his mom was thinking now that he was with OW that she might get grandkids--clearly because this chick is 28 and I'm 42. Umm, last time I checked, I was still "able." Just chose NOT to. And I've played over in my head the scene, like a movie, of OW giving birth and my XH standing there all lovey-dovey. I kid you not. This is how terrible my imagination is.

I don't know the answer to these speculations on our part--about their future marriages or whatnot, but I guess it's madness for us to dwell on this stuff.

It's almost like if there were no one else in the world, I wouldn't CARE if XH married her. What concerns me? The idea that since there are people in the world, they'll form judgments about me that are negative IF he marries her and IF he has a kid with her.

So I get what you're saying about curling up and dying, but I guess we have to rise above this whole problem too, and learn to not care what our XH's do.