WAW, and a bisexual open marriage

[25yearsmlc]

Just to note that all of your GAL activities are done alone. You need to do things that get you around other people, preferably healthy people who model normal healthy behavior. (Not people who reject a meal, offered as a GIFT, b/c it has 300 calories... )

There are clubs and organizations around you. Oh, you aren't in a cosmopolitan area? Too bad buddy, b/c neither were we. We were stationed in the interior of Alaska. I had a newborn baby and had quit my job in the prior place so I was jobless. I knew no one there outside of my family. Maybe that's why I did more there, just to feel alright and get out of the house despite absurdly cold temperatures-like (50'F below zero) than I did in a city in Texas. It IS possible & hey, I proved it.

I volunteered at a woman's shelter,I did PTA stuff, auditioned for many theater roles & did shows & stand up, I joined the spouses club, entered a neighborhood program for wildlife watch, worked out with others and sometimes alone, took archery with my daughter, helped with son's wrestling team-you don't have to have a child to help coach/teach/mentor, I fished and did outdoorsy things when weather permitted, joined a writer's club and I took a pottery class (way outside my typical interests) AND an economics class (and investment courses/seminars) despite having a doctorate already.

Yes you can model some real GAL activities even where you are. I did ALL the above in the middle of nowhere. Otherwise you both are "waiting" for the area you are in to make your lives interesting. If you have to drive somewhere, drive/carpool.Don't wait for "it" to happen. Take charge of your life. You are wasting precious time and learning so little. Take a language class, do something.

Otherwise, do you honestly think you two will get a lot out of living in Europe? I don't see her as immersing herself in another culture. The lack of iniative on so many fronts is a pattern.

Imagine your life is a novel. How's this chapter going for you? What do you want to have happen in the next chapter, and the rest of the book? How will your novel end? And finally, who is writing it?

Be the author of your life. Start now.





You can model this