Just a random thought: It seems like my W was rejected the current R as it stands and has chosen one of two roads. Both roads are paved with pain.
The first road is work through the pain and issues. In this case the pain is intense and it involves two people - my W and me. Everyone else is impacted minimally.
The second road is the one she's chosen and it's to D. In this case, the pain is potentially less intense but it involves many more people, including my S, and spreads to other people in the family.
With the first road, there is relief at the end. With the second road there, the goal is escape.
The sad thing is with a D, everybody gets hurt, and the pain never really goes away.
