I am not going to repeat what the others said, other than that you should reread this thread...
SLOWLY
Originally Posted By: Bolt
As far as backsliding, I'm not sure how I can do that.
Each and every one of your statements below…
Is a backslide…
It is you giving her all of the power over YOUR life…
How you proceed, how you feel, how you live, and even how you simply breath sometimes…
Originally Posted By: Bolt
She is blaming me for EVERYTHING.
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I know I'm going against what people are saying but I just don't see how there is any hope. And quite honestly, hope is what is killing me. Hope is what makes me not sleep and want my old new life back. Hope is a dream.
I don't want that hope anymore. I want the hope that there is a better future without my W.
Originally Posted By: Bolt
What kills me is we did talk this morning for an hour texting. She said she did work on it and did want it to work but then suddenly had a complete change of heart and realized I would never change. That's a load of bs but I can't control her thinking. She thinks I controlled her life...now I can't even talk to her.
It does cause too much pain...
Originally Posted By: Bolt
As far as the M, it is definitely over. I have no chance of reconciling bc she is completely done. This won't change and I know it.
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I don't know what to do?!
You are spinning. Until you slow down, you won't know what to do or where to start.
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I simply want to move on with my life.
If it were only this simple.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, Bolt.
And none of this is going to be resolved in a day either.
You think you will feel better once this kid thing is settled…
And you will, with regards to your children and your rights…
As far as your M, you won’t…
If you continue as you are now, you are going to end up revisiting a lot of these things down the road…
Within yourself, within a different relationship, with your W…
You are on your way to Bittersville if you continue with these thoughts and feelings…
You are visiting there right now…
Like it?
I hope you do if this is where you plan on staying...
So Bolt, while coming here to vent is extremely important, so is taking steps to get yourself out of this rut that you are digging…
Running away…
Isn’t gonna work…
That is what your W is doing…
Does it really seem to be working for her?
Time to start digging in the right direction Bolt…
Stop feeding off of the drama...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
