That is good advice. It really is fear trapping us. The fear of losing them. The fear of worse pain than I am feeling right now. Fear of the OW being the one he chooses - even though it is said affairs dont last. Just fear. We do our best to keep ourselves busy but it just never really leaves my mind. He even creaps his way into my dreams lately. One day I think I commit to pulling away and then the next day I am back in the fight. It would be easier if they would also make up their minds as to what they want - stop giving me hope because it just messes with my head and heart. Wish I had advice to give. Wish I had the answer on how to get rid of the OW. You know though most days I do feel really strong but then days like today I feel like I just want to go curl into a ball. I keep telling myself to act in the As If...As if things are going to be just fine and I will get my hug later today.
