My story

[ninelives]

sbrass:

Sorry you are here but there are some great people that can help you, usually because they have been through it.

One of our biggest problems was our lack of communication for sex. Man have I learned a lot since then.

I used to think that I was entitled to sex at least once a week but I craved it more but we usually had it once a week.

Whether she wanted it or not.

What a HUGE MISTAKE on my part. Again, I stupidly thought that she was my wife and I work hard and needed a "release" at least once a week. We even talked recently how much she hated to be obligated to that when she didnt feel a connection to me.

I regret that soooo much now. I didnt put her feelings first and granted , she didnt put mine first either because I used to be like a caged animal near the end of the week.

How unnattractive that was for her?

I dont know what the answer is or should have been but heres what I do know. Pouting or arguing over sex is not right.

You need to do one of two things in my opinion

1) address this head on and see if you are happy with the solution. ( If not full intercourse) are there degrees that you would be ok with.

2) learn to live without as much.

In my sitch, I would be quite happy having sex maybe 2 x's per month when she is ready and then maybe doing a few other things.

compared to what is going on now it would be a fair trade off.

Just be honest and for gods sake, dont POUT if that is what you have done. I did and regret it everyday.

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