First off.......don't...come here to vent. Nothing you say is gonna "shock" many of us ....
Originally Posted By: Bolt
She is blaming me for EVERYTHING. I know it's par for the course but when it happens, you don't believe it.
Step back for a minute Bolt....re-read this thread...
I am hoping that soon...you too, will notice this pattern of behavior from her.
When she wants to get her way, she is nice to you...
Your guard comes down, you have these little relationship talks, you let your guard down....put another quarter in the merry-go-round.
THEN-----
She GETS what she wants, she goes back into push-away mode, where all of that anger is spewed at you.
It is a pattern of behavior, that obviously works for her.
Until YOU break that chain....
She filed that motion a couple weeks ago...
It took a whole lot of anger to pull that crap on you...
Afterward ? When she got the court to rule in her favor ?
She came around and was nice as hell to you....
You take protective measures legally to protect your rights with the girls ?
She goes back into full anger to justify her decision to "take" them from you.
It's obvious ( to me at least) that she knows you have a very real chance of taking them from her, and this anger, is needed to manipulate you into that person she is running from.
Your job should be....to NOT be that person..
Every time you punch the ticket for that ride, you are buying what she is selling...
It is up to YOU to provide a safe environment from this coaster ride for your girls....
You have a guardian...right ?
They are appointed solely for the girls...not her side, not your side.....
They are trained to listen to the needs of the children.
But you have to actually BE that person first.....and as long as you are spinning, you can't be stable.....
Please, stop thinking about what if, and when....
Do what is right...
You control when you step off of the ride......
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I don't want to talk to her ever but I have to in order to see my kids! I can't reason with this person. I don't know what to do?!
I feel like I'm in a prison and can't get out...
I have a news flash for you bro.....
It doesn't end...
So why don't you find a safe spot and learn HOW do deal with it...
