Mk, It is quite right to feel anger, and it is good to vent it. It is also good to use it to motivate yourself. Motivate not influence you to a mean spirited response. IMO we need to take the high road when interacting with our WAS. It can become a fine line so please examine your goals and boundaries respective of the D. Use goals and boundaries to prevent becoming a door mat. You are much stronger now than three months ago.
It is natural for our S family to circle the wagons around them. It is natural for our S to vilify us. To my thinking the more they vilify, the more outlandish the claims, the less sustainable the support become, so long as we do not provide fuel to sustain it.
Actions speak louder. Take the high road and demonstrate you are the fair person, the better person. Do it for you not to show them. At the end of the day we all,…all S included, must look into the mirror. At the end of life we all must stand before our deity.
We all backslide and let anger show at some point, don’t let it color the person you are or what you are trying to protect. Your dad is right, but you knew that. Take a deep breath, review your short term goals, and dedicate yourself to them again.
I don’t know if you can take something from this or not, but for what it is worth: I have come to accept my drama will include D. I am not done. I will act in a fair and equitable manner. I will place my goals above Ws. I will uphold my personal integrity.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
