Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 4

[AJM80]

You can post to yours, I'll come over and read it or we can start a new post. not trying to hijack - I figured you, Sparks and I were in a unique situation, with our WAW spouse hanging around the house.

My gut says you've moved a step closer Sparks... It may be time for another plateau, setback, or low soon (or Easter tears may have been that for you). She got angry, right, then you both sort of worked through it to get to a nice Easter? You don't want to pressure her (the invite was well done), but you do want to keep surprising her with ways you're different, "moving on" with or without her, and showing her what life she'd be missing.

As a woman, I miss that sense of home and security, and romantic/caring things. The flowers sort of hit both. You could also get a welcome mat, bake a loaf of bread (freezer section has frozen dough), change hand soap/toothpaste/etc the next time you run out (I'd almost bet you're still using what she always bought), hang up some pictures (if you don't have frames, kmart has these $1, $3. 5 dollar basic black/white wood ones that look great with a couple (I'd do baby pics - don't put her up there) clustered on the wall). I periodically move furniture around - H gets a little shake up and an opportunity for H to compliment things. I want her to see the value now of being with you AND being with a guy. I'd keep it focused on little things for 2 reasons - her lack of money will make her angry if she sees you spending and because I think that's what a lot of people lost track of .