I know the three of us are "at about the same time" in our sitches and all have OMs / EAs or whatever.
I want to respond when there's simple talk, questions of "how you doing?" and similar. So I'm trying to rationalize... Why...?
Nice light conversation should be a good thing, right? But here's the thing... "they" are still involved with their OMs. They want to check our temp, but they aren't telling us what THEIR temp is. They need to understand that we were hurt by their infidelity and that we are trying to move on with our lives because they appear (show with actions) that they are moving on with theirs...
Yet... we want to have the good conversations... find out how they're doing and try to get that connectedness back.
What we do is for us. What do you want, islander?
I think I might just go darker. I need to get on with my life. Not be involved in Ws life because it obviously does not include me. Questions about kids or S / D process will need to be answered. Questions about "how I'm doing" or things like that are not worth answering. And comments are not worth responding to.
