MHL I hear you and Grace.
I try to do that and just focus on myself but I keep coming back to the kids. I just want all of this done so I CAN get on with my life. I feel I can't until something is decided on the kids.

As far as the M, it is definitely over. I have no chance of reconciling bc she is completely done. This won't change and I know it. I will have to say that the longer this life goes on, the less I want it to work. I want to move on as well.

As far as backsliding, I'm not sure how I can do that. There's very little contact and when there is, it's relatively calm and friendly. I don't want anymore contact and once the girls are decided, I won't have any contact.

I simply want to move on with my life.

m 40
w 38
married 15
together 18
d11, d8
bomb 12/19/10
2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE