Young at Heart Thanks for the encouragement I really needed that. Definitely need to pick up those books. I agree that 25 is the new MLC age. I know mine sees being 50 as a terrible thing, so MLC at 25 makes a lot of sense! As for the passion, I know she has asked for this before! I always found it so hard based on all the precondition she would put it. We had passion, until the preconditions came. They sure killed the passion. Maybe she wanted me to be strong and break the conditions? I'm not sure. For now I need to work on self respect, and being strong. I read some of Dancequeen's post in the SSM forum from the few I read she sounded very wise.
I swear I hate writing all these things, because that is not how I see myself! I never saw myself as weak. In my line of work weak guys get run over by their subordinates. That doesn't happen to me. Although I do admit that I was always of the type that would rather just agree, than get into a fight with my W.
I know she has dropped hints telling me that she wanted me to be more assertive with her, and I see them clearly now. The problem is I always took them for W double speak and thought that despite her saying she wanted me to call the shots, what she really wanted was just for me to agree with her. In hindsight I probably took the old saying "would you rather be married or right?" a little bit too far.
