Hi still learning, it is funny how people say i am clear on my goals, yet looking through my eyes, i am all over the place and drowning. Thats the great thing about db forum ( though i wish there was no need for it ), you do get the value of others perspectives, that enables you to see your self differently.
I was reading about how i need to be lovingly detached, i so wish i was there with that, i feel so raw and have good and bad days... the crazy rollercoaster.
I so agree about how you go about doing things is important, because the finances are typically just business decisions, yet in these circumstances they have potentially massive emotional implications. One thing i keep thinking to myself is having to explain myself to my daughters when they are older. Did you treat mom kindly, did you do the right thing, did you try everything you could think of? So i continue to honor and respect her, regardless of what she says to me or does, but it takes everything out of me.
The problem i face now, is that as we are seperated, our communication is basically sms( i hate it, its so easy to misconstrue meaning because its so short ) and very business like emails. How do i build a bridge back to her, it seems that the distance between us is so enormous and she seems very happy with that ( im trying not to read her mind , coz im pretty well wrong ). Her total focus is laser like on the om, the children a distant second. I assume if she does not think about me, she doesnt feel guilty.
As we are only 8 weeks into this ( it feels like eight years mind you ), is it too early to start trying to build a bridge to her, or do i keep the distance and just respond to her emails?
Thankyou for all the support, i wish we were not here, but i am very appreciative.
Facingdivorce Me: 46 W: 40 D8 D6 Seperated feb 2011
