Positively moving forward

[mishka422]

It's not that you gave him a choice in the 7pm or 8pm issue, it's that you asked the question in the first place which just opened the door for him to back it up to 7pm, migraine or no migraine.

You aren't being "the bad guy" by standing up for your time and making H be a parent. If he wants the credit hence the CS break, then he has to man up and do his duty!

The more you give in the harder it's going to be for your son to adjust to staying with each of you a set amount of time.

Tell me this, how many times has your H given you extra time when you needed it because you had a headache, were busy, etc.?

Let me tell you a little story.....


My bff was divorced 10 years ago. Her H left her for OW and they divested themselves of their house, cars, etc. They have joint custody (50-50) however I can count on one hand how many times her xh has actually stuck to that. He brings them home when they are inconvenient for him because he has other plans, he is eternally bringing them home early because they want their mom or because it's too difficult for him to drive them here or there to their activities so my bff should do it....blah blah blah. She has put up with this "for the sake of the kids". She also has never once taken him back to court for more CS although the kids are now 15 and 16 years old and cost a HECK of a lot more than they did then, cost of living has skyrocketed, and his salary has doubled. He complains constantly that he pays SO MUCH in CS and tells the kids that "your mom is bleeding me dry" yet he buys new cars, new dirt bikes, boats, etc while she scrapes by trying to keep them clothed and fed on the tiny amount she gets.

She has allowed all of this to happen under the guise of it being better for the kids if she doesn't "make waves" and just gives in to him.

These little things that are happening now are setting you up for a similar fate in the future.

Please nip it in the bud right now before it snowballs into the situation my bff has ended up in. It happens so quickly and without you even realizing it. Your H is a master manipulator and does without any over action whatsoever.

I'm sincerely concerned for you. You have to watch your back!!! No one else is going to!!!